Welfare case with a problem, what would U do?

[hooknline]

Katherine. It's good to hear to good outcomes too.
I'll shut up now III

[Workinonit Farm]

Katherine. It's good to hear to good outcomes too.
I'll shut up now III

I can think of 3 off the top of my head, 1 of which I told the abbreviated version of.

Unfortunately I, personally, know way too many of the opposite kind .

But I am an eternal optomist and try to do what I can to make a difference for the few who really want to "do" for themselves. I try to think about the good stuff as often as possible, because it does exist.

Katherine

[chrisy]

I have three children two girls and a boy, they were all bought up in the same house by the same people, with the same opportunities, the girls one from my husbands first marriage one from mine, who you would think would be the mixed up two, but no the girls both always had a good head on their shoulders and in my opinion made the right decisions. My boy he got mixed up with the wrong crowd and run with them for a while, he was wild. Didn't matter what me or his dad told him he knew best or he thought he did. Then we took him away on holiday and tragedy hit, and he saw things no 16 year old should, or anyone else really. That changed him and he came to his sences and switched back to his good old friends when he came home. Now he has a great girlfriend and has started his own business, as an Electrician, we sent him to College for his papers, as he promised us he would stay and study, not like school where he was expelled. Long and Short of it is sometimes there is light at the end of the tunnel, if you are prepared to get off of your backside and look for it, as it doesn't come knocking at your door.

[Kathie in Thorp]

To all of you who have commented: Bless the hearts and souls of you that have taken on kids that needed taking on.

I'm all for a society that helps each other. The incapable should be helped by the capable... But it has to be met on a need by need basis with the capable and incapable looking each other in the eye to assess each others needs and abilities. Help needs to come from churches, neighbors, freinds, family, and not a blanket program where if you learn how to manipulate the standards then you're in. There are a whole bunch of people that I know who are legitimately poor that I would hand a packet of garden seeds to and point at their front yard and they'd be set for life(as long as I keep giving them seeds)but they've never had the idea of producing anything for themselves so they wait for someone to bring it to them. They want what I have but they fail to see that I turned my front yard into a garden a long time ago and I can afford grocery store food...meant both figuratively and literally.

I like this -- I think this way, CP. I would actually hand seeds to those NOT "legitimate poor," that expressed an interest in getting out of the hand-out/welfare cycle. If they passed a background check, so we didn't worry about the place getting ripped off, I might offer a good-sized garden plot. But, I doubt any of that would happen in the real world. Our community has a community garden for those that want to do that -- I think most any community of a reasonable size offers something similar. I've sent them "organic" fertilizer, some fencing stuff, 50 lbs of seed potatoes last year, extra packaged seeds, and tomato plants. I've never rec'd a thank-you card and I have no idea how well that project is going -- but the project continues. That's good enough, for that. The more those in need can be their own salvation, the better.

[slick4591]

I think this story will burn your britches, too.

http://news.yahoo.com/lottery-winner-fo ... 50898.html

[chrisy]

I think this story will burn your britches, too.

http://news.yahoo.com/lottery-winner-fo ... 50898.html

how about this couple then....http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/blog/ ... feel-right
not only living in their Social House still collection benefits, they say they don't feel right, but it hasn't stopped them from going down to the Post Office each week and picking the money up. If they felt that bad they would say to the DSS stop the money we don't need it.

[tripleBfarms]

And now, on a lighter note:

[Kathie in Thorp]

And now, on a lighter note:

[B&M Farms]

I am gonna disagree with you Boogie. I have come to the conclusion that sometimes it's nobody's fault. Both of the kids I mentioned came from 2 parent families that were middleclass, reasonably successful, and highly involved with their children. Sometimes shyt just happens!

You have a point. One of my daughters has attained a very high level of success. The other one came from the same environment. You tend to beat yourself up wondering what you did wrong and never put your finger on it.

You see kids coming out of terrible situations of a family who make it good in life. You see kids with a silver spoon throw it away.

In my heart I know I did the right things. Still there has to have been something that could have been done at some point to have caused a better influence on her choices. I tend to hold myself accountable.

Yep, Free Will means that they are ultimately responsible for the choices they make. I have a couple of young ones, and I hate knowing that I will have to let go some day for them to make their own mistakes. Makes you wonder if God looks down and feels the same way sometimes?

I sometimes think all you can do is your best to teach them right from wrong and pray they make good choices. I would surely hope no one ever blamed my mother for all the stupid things I did when I was younger.